Archive | October, 2011

Sex in the News: Oct ’11

31 Oct

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Topics covered in this installment of Sex in the News:

  1. Girl Scouts of Colorado welcomes transgendered youth
  2. Lesbian couple crowned homecoming king and queen
  3. Support the Every Child Deserves a Family Act

I simply don’t have time to discuss these issues in an in-depth fashion, after a horrifically busy, stressful month that is finally coming to a close.  However, suffice it to say, the theme this October in sexuality-related news seemed to be one of equality. In case you’re pressed for time and are unable to read these inspiring stories, I have summarized them for you here.  In short:

1. The Girl Scouts embraced a young transgendered girl, making a national statment after the child was initially turned away. This will hopefully pave the way for other youth to become involved in extra-curricular organizations that encourage an atmosphere of fun, adventure, and learning, as well as diversity and acceptance. (I was once a Girl Scout myself and have fond memories. In fact, I bet my mother still has that little Brownies vest stashed away somewhere…)

2. In California, Rebecca and Haileigh were crowned homecoming king and queen, becoming one of the first gay couples to receive that particular honor.  In light of news articles in recent years, telling of the plight of young men and women being banned from their school dances, this news is particularly encouraging.  It warms my heart the way the whole place just explodes when their names are announced.  Beautiful.

3. This bill was introduced this past May, but it has received little to no media attention.  I was made aware of it in my social policy class a couple weeks ago.  If this bill were signed into law, it would “prohibit discrimination in adoption or foster care placements based on the sexual orientation, gender identity, or marital status of any prospective adoptive or foster parent, or the sexual orientation or gender identity of the child involved.” In other words, while adoption is possible for single folks, transgendered people, and same-sex couples in some states, it is by no means guaranteed across the board.  For example, until very recently, homosexual couples were allowed to foster children in Florida, but they could not officially adopt them, even if the child had been with them since birth. Please contact your representatives and show your support for HR1681, the Every Child Deserves A Family Act.


True or False #1

30 Oct

I’ve been inspired!  Starting today, I will be doing a weekly True or False post!  People can send in their questions by visiting the True or False page at the top of the site.  Please send in your questions and I will do my best to answer them!  They may even be featured on the site, unless you indicate otherwise.  Now, let’s get down to business.  Our first True or False question!

First, I’d like to clarify some of the language used in this question.  When referring to your external anatomy, you are talking about your vulva.  Your vulva is composed of the mons veneris, the clitoris, the clitoral hood, the labia minora and the labia majora, and the introitus, or the entrance to your vagina.  Your vagina is the internal portion.  It’s where a penis goes if you are a person who has heterosexual intercourse.

Now, for the actual question.  You most certainly are not deformed!  The assertion that some women do not have “inner lips” is false.  Every woman technically has labia minora (inner lips), as well as labia majora (outer lips). It comes down to how a person develops in utero. PhotobucketClick the image above to view a really fantastic animation of how baby boys and baby girls typically develop. I found this website recently when I was putting together a presentation on gender selection in intersex children. Love it!

When we start off, we all have indifferent genitalia, meaning that our bits have the potential to develop into either male or female parts. Labia minora are the “grown up” version of the urogenital folds, which develop into the skin of the penis in males.  In short…we all have them! They just vary in size and style.  If you’ve never seen the work of Betty Dodson, you should plug her into a search engine to see some neat portraits and renditions of various vulvas!  In fact…that may be an excellent idea for a future post!

Keep an eye out!  And keep those questions comin’!


26 Oct

Please, oh, please, take a look at this series of photographs of men in stereotypical pin-up poses.

PhotobucketPhotobucketPhotobucketI find these simultaneously hysterical and eye-opening, throwing masculinity and femininity into sharp contrast.  For me, it demonstrates just how ludicrous these infamous poses are.  Women falling all over themselves, violently arching their backs, pouting their lips, pointing their toes, looking up at you plaintively from prone positions.

It doesn’t have quite the same effect when a set of bearded, broad-shouldered men give it a try, does it?  Still.  Why can’t the guys show a little leg now and then?  I positively love them.

Work it, boys.

What do you think of these amazing Men-Ups?

Sexuality and Aging

26 Oct


Check out Cindy Joseph, a 61-year-old model with gorgeous gray hair and a cheerfully lined face. Despite my extreme distaste for the modeling industry, this lady is pretty fantastic. She’s beautiful and is clearly very happy with the skin she’s in.

“I think of silver hair and crow’s feet as badges, like merit badges you get in girl scouts and boy scouts. These are the badges that I’ve earned! I’m proud of the life that I’ve lived. I don’t want to hide that,” Cindy says, “I don’t want to hide that I’ve been on the planet for sixty years. I think it’s something to celebrate.”

At the end of September, I attended the Consortium on Sexuality and Aging.  Although working with aging generations never really interested me until I went to this conference, I find myself inspired to empower older folks to continue to enjoy their sexual selves, even if it means adjusting their expectations and learning a new way to relate to one another and themselves.

I learned so much.  I went to workshops on sexual addiction, infidelity, couple’s counseling, and sex toys.  I volunteered at the resources table, selling a book of lessons plans for older adults called Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter and a book about senior sex titled Naked at Our Age by Joan Price.  I met the author of one of the textbooks I used as an undergraduate, Bill Taverner, who is also a co-author of Older, Wiser, Sexually Smarter. 

At the resources table, we also had a few booklets put together by Peggy Brick, who spoke at the conference.  Peggy is phenomenal.  She is 82 years old and still educating folks about sex.  Maybe that’ll be me one day.

A girl can dream.

Excuses, Excuses.

25 Oct

It’s official.  I am the worst sex blogger ever. It’s been nearly a full month since my last post.  I apologize sincerely.  Fortunately, I have a whole list of excuses, which I have prepared especially for this occasion.

One, I just got a promotion at work.  I am now the Education Coordinator at the adult toy store I work at.  I’ve been caught up in hosting educators who come in to teach about everything from bondage to butt sex.  It’s hard work, but it’s going to look amazing on my resume.

Two, two years ago, my best friend died in a car accident.  October is a rough month for me.  This has legitimately affected my mood and my ability to be productive.

Three, graduate school is kicking my can.  Midterms have just passed, which means bunches of projects, papers, and tests.  Thankfully, things will begin to wind down now as we work our way towards Thanksgiving break.

Four, the Sims 3 Pets came out a few days ago and I may or may not have been wasting away hours playing with little virtual puppies and ponies.  I love the Sims.  Don’t make fun of me.

Five, I’m just really forgetful.

I think that covers it.  If anyone out there is still reading this, I have some fun stuff waiting in the wings.  Keep those eyes peeled.