Archive | January, 2012

One Month, Ten Pounds

28 Jan

Just wanted to share this here.  🙂  I’ve lost ten pounds since Christmas.

It’s crazy what a difference it makes for my chipmunk cheeks, huh?

Ten pounds down, 45 to go.


Wordless Wednesday

25 Jan




The Year of the Dragon

23 Jan

I occasionally listen to NPR while I take a shower, instead of my usual country or 90s music CDs. This morning, the beginning of the new year on the Chinese calendar, I heard an interesting story on BBC’s Here and Now.

This year is the year of the dragon. Dragons are a revered and respected symbol in Chinese culture, representing happiness, immortality, fertility, and strength, among other things. Unsurprisingly, the year of the dragon is considered a lucky time in which to be born. In fact, there is actually a mad rush to give birth during the next twelve months. So much so that superstitious Chinese couples have taken pains to increase their fertility and become pregnant with the proper timing to ensure the birth of a “dragon baby”. As a result, China (and other Asian countries) will likely see at least a 10% increase in the birthrate.


The irony is that, by attempting to have a baby that will lead a life full of good fortune, parents are ensuring that their children will come into and come up in a world that is jam packed with kids their age. “What’s so bad about that,” you say? Well, think about it. More children being born this year means that the staff of medical facilities will be tied up, run ragged, and busy, busy, busy. More likely than not, newborns and expectant mothers will receive less attention and lower quality care this year than they would under another sign. Furthermore, those children will grow up and begin to attend schools where normal classroom sizes will be inflated, meaning that teachers will have less time to devote to the education of each student. So, really…these dragon babies are sort of unlucky in that the odds are somewhat stacked against them. Maybe the luck is in their ability to overcome these obstacles.

And that’s what I was thinking about as I started my day. It’s interesting how cultural beliefs can reflect on sexual practices and family planning, isn’t it?

Listen to the clip on Here and Now’s website.

Things I’m Learning Via Lifestyle Changes

18 Jan

Disclaimer: This is going to be a long post. It’s also primarily about me and my approach to living a better life. Just a little peek into my personal experiences with body image and health. If you’re also looking to make changes in your life, you may find it interesting. If not…feel free to skip this entry 😉


For a little background…I’m making big changes in my life. Aside from deciding to eat more healthfully and sustainably, I’ve made a lot of adjustments to the way I approach daily life. These mainly came in the form of the infamous New Years Resolution. Fortunately, I didn’t make these changes because it was a new year. I made them because something clicked into place in my brain and I realized that things need to be different. This just happened to take place at the beginning of January.

I love making lists and I have always been extremely goal-oriented. My goals for this “project” include big changes and small changes. Some of them are things that I’ve been doing already, but would like to do more consistently and intentionally. There are easily achievable short-term goals (like whitening my teeth) and much more difficult long-term goals (like making all of my meals). I even made a daily checklist to monitor and measure my progress while I’m implementing these changes. Here are my goals.

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Live Sex Show on DVD

17 Jan

I LOVE queer porn.  I love gender fluidity and kink and sexual freedom and REAL people.  For me, this type of pornography is a massive improvement over the hairless, overly-tanned, bleached blonde, plastic-surgeried imagery of mainstream porn, full of six packs and neat, compact, polite little pussies.  Porn doesn’t get much better than this.  This is real sex, real energy, real people.  Live Sex Show is a flick directed by Courtney Trouble, presented by TROUBLEfilms, in collaboration with the Center for Sex and Culture.  It was filmed in front of a live audience at San Francisco’s Masturbate-A-Thon.  Live Sex Show was  my first brush with TROUBLEfilms, but I plan to head over to their website, immediately after I finish this review, to purchase some more titles.


The main menu, which features a black background and the same super hot image of Jiz Lee and Nina Hartley as the front of the DVD case, has only two sections – Play Film and Chapters.  Cool!  Keepin’ it simple.  My only complaint is that the lettering is off white when not selected and when selected it’s a pale yellow!  It makes it very difficult to see exactly which option you’ve chosen.  Selecting “Chapters” brings you to a plain, text listing of the various scenes, identified by the names of the performers.

Click through for the full review.

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Jollies RETURNS!

16 Jan

That’s right.  You heard it here first, folks.

JOLLIES HAVE RETURNED!  The company has been temporarily reincarnated in the form of an Etsy store, where they are currently selling back stock from when they were an actively manufacturing company.  Says the owner of the Etsy store, ChavezDezignz, “Because of all the interest, we might think about bringing it back, but, for now, [we’ll] stick with selling what’s available.”

If you are familiar with Jollies, you’re no doubt jumping for joy, as I was.  If you’re a regular reader of my blog, you’ll recognize the Jollies brand name and the unique design of their signature toy, the Jollie, as I recently reviewed it here on The Rainy Day Review.

Thus far, in the store, they have Rider, Jack, Wave, Bubbles, Luna, Jollet, and Jollie, as well as a variety of handmade jewelry and silicone ashtrays.

Take note, smokers.  Silicone ashtrays!  Ingenious!  For those of you who don’t know, high quality silicone is resistant to damage at temperatures up to 572°F (300°C), making it an ideal material for a practically indestructable ashtray.  And they’re pretty too.

Learning How to Eat

3 Jan

I have a new obsession. I realize it may not seem directly related to sexuality, but it is certainly tied to energy, health, and positive body image, which are absolutely related to sexuality.

I’ve always been an environmentalist. My father’s a serious outdoorsman and he taught me, from a young age, to conserve energy and water, to recycle and reuse, to love all creatures. So, today, I turn off the water when I brush my teeth, I don’t drink bottled water, I adopt my dogs instead of buying from a pet store or a breeder, and so on. I realized recently that I try to take better care of the planet than I do of myself. Why not do both? At the same time, even?

This year, I want to start eating sustainably. It’s better for me and it’s better for the Earth. I want to eat locally, organically, and seasonally. I want to detoxify. I want to take vitamins. I want to take care of my insulin resistance and get healthy. I want to cook more, like I used to. I want to learn more about gardening so that I’m prepared for when I have the chance to grow my own vegetables in the future.


This chart is of seasonal produce within 200 miles of New York. If you live in the general area, this applies to you! If not, visit Sustainable Table to search for seasonal produce in your area, as well as the locations of farmer’s markets where you can make purchases.