Archive | March, 2012

Civil Unions

19 Mar

This may sound silly, but I just learned yesterday that civil unions can be entered into by different-sex couples, as well as same-sex couples (in some states). As a female-identified person who hopes to marry a male-identified person one day, I had never considered the concept of civil union as opposed to marriage. It actually seems fairly appealing to me, now that I know it’s an option. I am not religious. Marriage was originally a religious institution. Furthermore, I am opposed to the patriarchal values implied by the traditional format of marriage. I would prefer a union in the form of a partnership. That is not to say that that can’t be achieved in a marriage as well, but…to me, even the word “marriage” carries somewhat negative undertones.

How do you feel about the fact that civil unions allow for similar legal rights to those afforded by marriage, but without using the same title? Homosexual couples are allowed civil union, but not allowed marriage, despite the similarities. Do you consider this “separate but equal” mentality to be acceptable?


Would you consider a civil union as opposed to a marriage? Why? Why not?


Teaching Workshops

16 Mar

Hi, everybody! Apologies, once again, for the recent absence. Things have been ridiculously busy in my world, what with a new job in an after-school program, hunting for a better job, doing coursework, attending class, going to meetings for the 2012 Careers in Sexuality Conference Committee (of which I am a member).

On top of all that, my career as an independent sexuality educator is slowly starting to get off the ground. A couple weeks ago, I taught a Kink 101 workshop for my classmates. I’m planning to hold another soon, as there were some people who were unable to attend. I was at a party last weekend and had a chat with my friend, A, who helps to run the educational classes at our local fetish shops. She said she was looking for someone to do workshops on “female masturbation” and handjobs. In other words…one will be about masturbation for people with pussies and one will be about handjobs for people with penises. Guess who’s taking the reins?

Yes, that would be me 😀 I’m so excited! But I’m looking for some input. As cunt-owning masturbators and as penis owners who have received handjobs (from yourself or someone else), what would you like to learn if you were to attend or what would you most want other people to know about masturbation in your world? How can I make this a wonderful experience for attendees?

Please post comments here or shoot me an e-mail at If you are in the Philadelphia area and interested in attending the workshops, get in touch, and I will happily get you the information 🙂

Wordless Wednesday

14 Mar




Second Class Citizens

1 Mar

Check out this inspiring piece of film spreading the word about a new documentary in the works.  It is called Second Class Citizens.

Directly from the website:

“A second class citizen is defined as: a person whose rights and opportunities are treated as less important than those of other people in the same society. There are many areas in which gays, lesbians, & bisexuals do not have the same rights & opportunities as others in society. We must change this now.

I want to make a documentary that encompasses all areas in which we are discriminated against. The general population is not aware that discrimination against the gay community goes beyond marriage & bullying. There is far too much hate directed towards our community and I want to capture that hate on camera. In addition, I want to explore where this hate comes from, why it continues to exist, and what we must do to get rid of it. A better solution is needed because the solution we have right now isn’t working fast enough.

I am not a second class citizen. You are not a second class citizen. Right now, the laws in place (and lack thereof) say that we are. Let’s change that.”

The film will cover topics such as marriage, adoption, education, religion, employment, bullying, housing, homelessness, etc.  I sent a message to the creator, Ryan  James Yezak, to ask if queer- and trans-identified folks will also be included in his film.  I realize that gender identity and sexual orientation are mutually exclusive, but we are all facing many of the same forms of discrimination and difficulty and we are all fighting the same battle for rights and acceptance. I’ll let you ll know if I hear back!

If you would like to donate to help make this documentary a reality, click here.